Extension

I wrote on human needs some time back. Interestingly, it took me more thought to write on the same overarching humanistic theme. So, basically what we'll have in this extension would be an application of the same basic principles that governs most of our lives in personal, professional and public spheres.

As we can't escape our needs, we tend to be drawn towards fulfillment or it's mirage (more on that later). As diverse as we can get, and as variegated our experiences become, our approaches too become multifarious. One may argue that there is a cultural context we find ourselves in and we are nudged towards certain validated or approved routines or behaviors that are promoted or considered safe, moral or more pro-social. No beef with that, absolutely. After all, cultural evolution prizes or underpins most of those societal patterns and has been vetted or selected from a large population. Arguing whether such trends are for the better or for the worse is also left for another time and space.

We enter relationships because there are certain needs that need to be met. That's how we survive and thrive. Inclusion and exclusion are the basis of relationships. However, how, when and under which contexts we do so varies as hinted earlier. I am basically a staunch adherent of inclusion; even though I am an introvert. Wider inclusionary approaches, however, don't rule out basic basic (or comprehensive) vetting or criticalness. But it deems in favor of further inclusion that there need be a swift and performant critical framework in place for all range of applications. Fulfillment comes with accountability. That's how we can sustain relationships.

There is a cost to everything. Relationships need expense, time and effort and therefore, bear cost. Of course, we need to be kind to our fellow humans; but hey, it's not all sunshine and rainbows. In low-cost relationships, one can afford to be lax and counter-intuitively such relationships tend to be recreational and truthful. (One of the reasons why social media is so addictive) In high-cost relationships, one needs to be more careful and thorough. A common fallacy observed in relationship dynamics is assuming that the person in front is coming from same background, shares similar values, needs, and goals. That is the basis of our misunderstandings where we mistake each other for someone we really aren't. Therefore, wider inclusionary approaches are slow and are also prone to error. They require rational deliberation.

That's about it for now. Stay tuned! :)